Off Topic: 3 Pieces of Advice for Women
September 30, 2011 § Leave a comment
Warning: this post is not related to running or health.
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The piece discusses feminism in a marital context (something that has been a point of contention for purveyors of feminism as some see marriage as an inherently patriarchal institution). Anyway, she offers three pieces of advice for women to consider and follow:
1. Prepare yourself to qualify for good work.
2. Treat your work seriously.
3. Don’t put yourself in a position of unequal resources when you marry.
Now, I am not necessarily a proponent of marriage (in fact, I am decidedly uninterested in getting married and I refuse to participate in all of the obsequious overindulgence that is common of today’s weddings– not to mention furthering and condoning the Marriage Industrial Complex), but I think that the blogger introduces some excellent things to consider in any relationship. (emphasis mine)
In fact, I believe that [domestic work] is the single most irretrievably gendered division-of-labor issue for couples who want to be, or think they are, equals: the person whose job it is to monitor that equality is the person who has the least power. And in most cases, that’s the woman. That’s why “don’t put yourself in a position of unequal resources” is absolutely crucial advice: if you’re going to have to monitor your marriage to make sure that it’s an equal partnership, then that is in and of itself part of the labor of the relationship.
She discusses surnames, finances, domestic work, among other things. As a heads up, this is her feminist marriage manifesto of sorts– so, it is good to read it with that in mind. Take from it what you will. I personally appreciated her thoughts on pooled finances and monitoring equality. Ultimately, I think the post raises some interesting points about egalitarian relationships.